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3D Wheelchair Art Modeling

3D Wheelchair Model Animation

Creating 3D wheelchair model animation is easy with so many user friendly programs available these days. You no longer need a degree in kinetics to easily create realistic animations. I explained how to set up some simple 3D wheelchair models previously using free 3D software Daz3D. Now here are a few 3D wheelchair model animations I put together. One of the options in the Daz3D 4.6 free version is export as an AVI movie. I then simply rip to GIF format to be cross browser friendly and post here.

The 3D wheelchair model animation below is a short endless loop of 50 frames. Our female model Susan in sports gear is walking beside our male model Michael in a Flex wheelchair on a warm sunny day.

3D Wheelchair Model Animation Walking

3D Wheelchair Model Animation

This second 3D wheelchair model animation is sexy Susan in a bikini on roller blades pushing a shirtless Michael in his Flex wheelchair. This one is an 80 frame loop. Sometimes it’s the simple things that make it look most realistic, like Susan’s hair blowing, and Michael’s head bob on each push. Did I over do her boobs lol? The scene in the background is a single image making the rendering process (saving as video) faster.

3D Wheelchair Animation Roller Blades

Wheelchair Model Animation of sexy bikini girl jiggle on roller blades pushing guy in flex wheelchair

Once you get the basic movement right there are many easy to apply options; skin color, hair type, clothing, body type, muscle size, plus lighting effects, endless camera angles, and so on that all conform or magnetize to your base 3D wheelchair model animation. I created the above short animation simply by making a few changes to the first countryside one.

3D Wheelchair Animation

Bookmark this page and have a go at making your own 3D wheelchair animation. I’m here to help and happy to post any of your creative works on a page of your own.

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Website Help and Updates

Mad Spaz Club wheelchair welcome icon copyright streetsie.comWelcome to the Mad Spaz Club website where all the cool wheelchair people hang out. Please report bugs, make feature requests, post complaints and general feedback in the comment section below. We are constantly improving the Mad Spaz Club website to make your visit a safe enjoyable one. Simply register an account to access all our features.

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11 February 2014 Extra Chat Features and Author Pages

We have made adjustments to our live chat to reward our loyal members including; online user list country flags, message window refreshes every 3 seconds (was 4), 500 characters per message max (was 400), anyone with contributor status (has written an article for us) can access moderation tools and initiate private chat windows, and we un-banned several words eg. viagra sex vagina ejaculation. We do allow discussions about sex as long as it is not offending anyone. You can now also read more about an article author by clicking on their name at the end of an article.

8 September 2013 Chat and Gallery Upgrades

Has it really been a year? We have made many improvements site-wide and helped hundreds if not thousands of people living with spinal cord injury. Major upgrades were recently made to our Live Chat feature after a conflict arose with the gallery. The gallery problem is an external scripting one out of our control so we are seeking a new gallery solution. A big thank-you to all our supporters and helpful members assistance over the last twelve months. I will try to post more updates here before another year passes us by.

12 Sept 2012 Amended Registration Agreement

Added “Wheelchair Dating” and “Artworks” forums, opened quick reply feature, upgraded versions and made minor layout adjustments. Amended registration agreement to include; “POST SOMETHING. The more you post the more access and privileges you are given. Members with 0 posts are given a rank of “Voyeur, one who spies on another’s private moments.” As we respect and protect our active members privacy, members with 0 posts are often deleted. To avoid this please make a post.”

11 June 2012 Forum Upgrades

Our forum has been updated to the latest stable version. We also added new avatars, a disability field to profiles, and enabled a “quick reply” feature on all posts. The disability chat room refresh rate has been bumped from 6 to 7 seconds to reduce server load and make it more stable when busy.

13 Mar 2012 Theme Updated

75% of people viewing our website use Internet Explorer. Updating our theme to display correctly in IE and the top 5 browsers is a never ending process. We rolled out several cross-browser fixes bringing our theme upto date today. Let us know if you have any problems viewing our website.

1 Oct 2011 Memberships Increase

600 images were added to our galleries during september. We wish to extend a warm thankyou to all who uploaded and the regulars who assisted new members and visitors during Graham’s absence. We’ve seen memberships steadily increase on our forum. The live chat area has been busy and our most prolific member there Deb has been promoted to a chat Admin. We greatly value all our members and appreciate your continued support.

27 Aug 2011 Article Submission Form Added

Website updates this month saw our article submission form go live to the public. I hope by making it easy, it will prove popular, as I love to read all your stories and experiences. Adding a math quiz to our member registration form cut down spam allowing me more time to work on Mad Spaz Club articles. While there have been several background improvements made the only other noteworthy mention is that over 300 images were added to our image galleries this month. Thank-you all for your continued support.

6 July 2011 JPG Image Upload on C omment Form

We have added the optional ability to upload an image along with your comment. We hope this enhancement makes it easier to share photos and interact with your fellow members here at the Mad Spaz Club.

20 June 2011 Upgraded Gallery Features

Thank-you to all our members who submitted photos to our galleries this month. Nearly 300 images in total. In appreciation we have added new features allowing you greater control over descriptions and how images are displayed. Any registered member can create a gallery and upload images, here’s a step-by-step how to.

  1. In your profile> Gallery> Add Gallery/Images
  2. Click “Add new gallery” tab
  3. Type in your gallery name
  4. Click “Add Gallery” button
  5. Click “Upload Images” tab
  6. Select your gallery name from the “chose galley” drop down
  7. “Browse” to and add your images, you’ll see them listed below the Browse box
  8. When you’re ready click “Upload images” give it time to process and create thumbnails
  9. Then you can add descriptions, alt and title tags, adjust your thumbnails etc.

1 June 2011 New Comment Notification Design

Our exciting new HTML comment notification design was launched today. Simplistic and sleek, if you comment on our website and leave the “Notify me of new comments on this page” box checked you will receive a visually stunning thank-you email notice on your first-time comment and an email notification everytime a new comment is posted on the page you are subscribed to. All MSC notification email includes links to opt-in/out of our services. We hope you enjoy this improvement.

1 May 2011 Reinstated Disability Forums

A flashback to the heady days when websites were built around forums. We get quite a few requests for forums and so after an extensive overhaul the forums we began in 2003 are back with retro flair. Some images and SP posts were not retrievable and we are working on bringing it into line with our one login for all website features policy but it’s up and running with a new “Personals” section so register and post your profiles.

29 Mar 2011 Bluce Ice Theme New Default

We will be rolling out our Blue Ice theme this week. Those resistant to change will still be able to revert to our Ruby theme with our theme switcher for a limited time. Blue Ice is the new default theme. Why? Features; Less clutter to find what you’re looking for faster. Quicker loading pages. Lightweight sub pages. Upgraded security. Easy to read fonts. Footer includes hot topic lists and quick contact form.

4 Mar 2011 Building Blue Ice Website Theme

We are developing a new black blue and white disability friendly theme with simplicity in mind. Soon you can find what you are looking for faster. But you don’t have to cross your legs and wait, use our Theme Switcher and check Blue Ice out now! Be sure to tell us what you think.

28 Feb 2011 Visit Our New Live Chat Area

We promote disability adventure and publish personal stories from wheelchair users and other people living with and caring for people with disabilities. We share knowledge and experience providing information and support to those impacted by spinal cord injury and all that wheelchair life involves.

Get Published

Your story could bring comfort to many. We love to hear from wheelchair users and people living with paraplegia quadriplegia and spinal cord injury as equally from anyone who’s life has been impacted by disability. We want to publish your story, if you are willing to share your story tell us briefly in a comment or our live chat area and we will contact you.

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To upload pictures and share with us you must have a registered account. Your images will not appear until they are approved by an admin. You may also upload images in our forum once registered, these will appear immediately. Visit our live chat area to request an account or higher access to advanced features. Anyone found abusing fellow members or our services will be dealt with severely. We reserve the right to delete any account and services without notice.

Create Your Account

We have taken steps to block spammers but allow legitimate users to still register an account with us. If you have any problems registering simply post or comment here or drop by our new live chat area and we’ll do our best to help you. Admin’s can create accounts and answer any questions about uploading images and publishing articles.

We apologize for having to delete previously registered member accounts and any inconvenience that may have caused. We take your security very seriously and take any action we feel necessary to safe guard you and your privacy. No accounts were compromised, we only deleted previous member accounts as a precaution.

Contacting Us

Other than our live disability chat and comment areas we offer a contact form at the bottom of our home page. We encourage you to ask and be answered in article comment areas so others can read learn and offer answers. We make it easy to post a question, comment or have your story published. So get cracking, shake off that granny blanket and show the ability in disability.

Many people don’t realize a spinal cord injury not only affects the person living in a wheelchair, their immediate family friends and loved ones lives are also affected. Relatives, work colleagues, even your local doctor becomes involved in one way or another. Did you know one third of the population has or cares for someone with a disability.

Paraplegic Lover

My Paraplegic Lover

I first met my paraplegic lover Chris online a year ago. There was an instant “click” as we are both from Midwest USA, the same age, liked the same music, and made each other laugh. It was wonderful to laugh with someone again. Each day we learned more about each other and the relationship grew. Even though we had never met in person we were like two peas in a pod.

Two months later we made the decision to meet and he flew to Ohio. This was the first time he had ever been on a plane. His only previous experience with flight had been a helicopter to the hospital after his car accident in 2002, which resulted in L4-5 paraplegia and a below knee amputation on the right. Obviously we had discussed “the chair” but it was rather irrelevant to our relationship at the beginning- just the way he gets around.

Paraplegic Lover

Paraplegic Lover

I have to admit I was a tad apprehensive while waiting for the plane to land  about silly things, like getting his chair in my car (as I have a VW beetle), how much could he feel, how would I approach intimacy etc. We had talked about being intimate as we believe open and honest communication is key to a relationship, but talking and doing are two totally different things. I ran across the airport, threw myself onto his lap (much to his surprise and the surprise of people waiting for luggage) and all was right with the world. I knew immediately he was the man for me and this relationship could work.

As I always say, and mentioned above, the most important advice I can give, is communicate, communicate, and communicate some more. He talked me through getting his chair in my car and our week began. We went out to eat but ended up spending most of our time in each others arms just getting to know each other and each others bodies.

Even though he has no feeling below T12, we found out that there are so many different ways to please another person, and satisfy each other, other than “traditional” sex. I was in heaven with my paraplegic lover. The neighbors banged on our wall which really made me laugh. Mapping his body, finding those sensitive spots was such a turn on for both of us. We talked about his accident, our pasts, our future and made a plan to see each other again. All too soon that first visit was over.

Two months  later he flew back again. We were talking 16 hours a day by phone, e-mailing, etc yet we really wanted to be physically in the same location to see if the magic still happened. I went for rides on his lap at parks, we saw movies, and did what every other couple does- we just got more looks from people and some even made snide remarks, such as “can you believe she is sitting on his lap kissing in public?” It just made us laugh harder, as if people expected us to hide away just because he was in a wheelchair.

For those who are leery of dating a paraplegic or anyone in a wheelchair – don’t be. He has expanded my horizons so much just be being himself. Intimacy is different than for an able bodied couple, but let me tell you that upper body strength is awesome and we’ve learned to please each other to a degree that would make able bodied people  jealous.  His mouth, his hands, the way he looks at me are so intense and when we stare into each others eyes its as if I feel him touch me. Even though my paraplegic lover Chris can’t feel me – in a traditional sense – he has many areas of sensation that other men don’t have.

In my opinion, what some men don’t “get” is that the brain is the largest sex organ in your body. So you can learn to “feel” in a different way and achieve orgasm in a more mental way… like your brain is exploding with pleasure.  It’s so intense for both of us that I wouldn’t trade it for anything. And oh my there should be books about the hows and joys of wheelchair sex.

As for eating out and things like that,  we just make sure where we are going is accessible, and add a little more time for transfers. If you are considering dating someone in a chair just relax and have fun with each other. Communicate, talk things through, and never let someone tell you it can’t be done. Throw the books out the window, ignore any odd looks you get (or if you are like me just smile and wave as you ride on your guys lap) and since every SCI is different don’t be afraid to experiment!

Don’t let odd questions from people get you down just smile and answer in whatever way you feel comfortable. Because, people tend to ask intrusive things. Children are curious, not afraid to say anything, and generally will find you to be the coolest ones around. We overheard a boy in the grocery say, “Mom, I want a THAT for Christmas” THAT being a wheelchair with lighted castors.

People have also been very helpful to us. We have a large military base in my town and a large VA, so more than once people have come out of nowhere to see if he needs hep transferring or if I need help with the chair. Our usual answer is, “we’ve got this, but thank you” and once a woman approached Chris, said “this isn’t your first rodeo, is it?” and then danced off with him at an outdoor concert, while I took pictures. Most people do mean well.

After further meetings here and in his home state, he has moved in with me as of August and we are blissfully happy. I’m not saying we never have things to overcome, but that’s true of any honest relationship. What we do have is so much laughter, so much fun, and so much appreciation for the little things in life. Most of all… we laugh :) Remember, scars have stories of strength and the will to survive to don’t be put off by silly things.

If anyone has any questions, I’m always willing to answer and will continue to keep you updated. We are officially engaged, so more to follow on that another time  and also more to follow about traveling by plane with your chair and the things to know beforehand that we have learned the hard way :)

Good luck to all of you- don’t be afraid to try. Together you can overcome anything.

Amanda

sarah casteel wheelchair tennis champion

Sarah Casteel Wheelchair Tennis Champion

Sarah Casteel two time national wheelchair tennis champion suffered a paralyzing spinal cord injury when a drunk driver slammed into the car she was driving on Independence Day in 2002. Tragically her 15 year old brother in the car at the time, did not survive the accident.

sarah casteel wheelchair tennis champion
Sarah Casteel Wheelchair Tennis Champion

Casteel, 18 years of age, was taken to the University of Missouri Hospital where she not only had to cope with the loss of her younger brother but the loss of her mobility. Now a paraplegic, she would not walk again.

Sarah remained in the hospital for three months before returning to her home in Greenville, South Carolina to continue with physical therapy.

Life with Paraplegia

Prior to the accident Sarah Casteel was an all-state volleyball player who excelled in tennis, competing on the boys’ tennis team in high school because there was no girls’ team and later played for Stephens College in Columbia, Mo. In her freshman year of college she wanted to study fashion design and art, but that all changed in an instant.

After the accident Casteel returned to Stephens College where she quickly discovered it was not wheelchair accessible. Many of her classmates were less than compassionate unfamiliar and uneasy with her new found paraplegia.

It was not good. It was weird; my life had changed so much. I found out I didn’t have friends anymore. A lot of people I thought were my friends disappeared. I guess they couldn’t deal with it. It was very hard. I decided this was not the place for me anymore. – Sarah Casteel

Casteel began looking for another school, one that could accommodate her wheelchair and improve her quality of life. She found such a place at the UTA (University of Texas in Arlington). She applied and received a wheelchair tennis scholarship to attend the UTA.

The occupational therapist I worked with in Missouri actually introduced me to wheelchair tennis, so I started looking for a school with a wheelchair tennis program, and the University of Texas actually was offering a scholarship for wheelchair tennis. I made friends there and I was No. 1 on a team of four. I competed against other colleges and in national tournaments. – Sarah Casteel

National Wheelchair Tennis Champion

Sarah Casteel

Sarah Casteel

The two time USTA (United States Tennis Association) national champion 2004-2005 Sarah Casteel has also competed in the World Cup held in the Netherlands. Graduating from Stephens College in 2005 with an Inter-disciplinary Studies degree with a focus on biology, she decided to pursue a career helping others.

A connection made with an occupational therapist in Missouri inspired her to become an Occupational Therapist. This led her to the Medical University of South Caroline (MUSC) where she graduated in 2009 with a Master’s in Occupational Therapy.

Training for a spot on the USA Paralympic wheelchair tennis team to compete in the Beijing Paralympics 2008 was interrupted when the steel plates and screws that fused her spinal vertebrae together began to irritate. After further spinal surgery and several week’s recovery, the unstoppable Casteel was back in training with her coach, Crafton Dicus, and competing nationally. Becoming a member of the U.S. Tennis Association High Performance Wheelchair Tennis Team.

Wheelchair Tennis Paralympic Games

Now with the guidance of pioneering wheelchair tennis coach Chuck McCuen, striving to hold a place in the World Cup Team 30 year old Sarah Casteel, a world-ranked wheelchair tennis champion feels she has a shot at representing her country in the Paralympics Games in London 2012. With the formidable tenacity Sarah Casteel has approached life with and a mean top-spin backhand that could snap your head off, whether Sarah makes the Paralympic team or not she will continue to inspire as all.

3D wheelchair models Michael and Kay splash into some swimming pool fun

Wheelchair Models Pool Fun

This week 3D wheelchair models Michael and Kay get wet in pool fun. Water is a difficult medium to animate. Plugins can achieve a realistic effect but out of the box Daz3D is hopeless at animating water. Adjusting opacity works fine for still images. However, creating an animated splash effect as Michael plunges into the pool in Daz3D is a big fail.

Three solutions; purchase a plugin, create splashes in another 3D modeling tool to import and animate, or place the camera at water level and move the water surface. For the simple purpose of bringing you original wheelchair related content we did the latter for this short video clip.

Wheelchair Models Pool Fun Video

Realistic Wheelchair Models

Good lighting is essential to realistic effects. Get the movements right before adding lights as they slow render speeds dramatically. We import the pool scene and fill it with water. Animate disability models sexy paraplegic Michael in his briefs and Kay in a pink bikini jumping into the swimming pool. Then add eleven slightly yellow distant lights to replicate sunlight; a ring of five pointing down at -33 degrees, five up at 44 degrees, and one down at -59 degrees. We set raytracing on the last light with an intensity of 73 and a shadow softness of 2 for a realistic sun shadow.

Adjusting Lighting for Wheelchair Renders

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The Pool Fun Part

We understand most don’t care how we create content, you just want to see the end results, and that’s ok. We have no purpose without an audience. If our audience does create and share stories, photos, video, comments, etc we will grow faster and serve you better. We built this website so you can express yourself. These anatomically correct models can be made do much more than we have shown here. We are also interested in using real-life models, disabled or not.

Graham Streets
MSC Admin

Disabled wheelchair model animation Michael pushing manual Flex design wheelchair

Wheelchair Animation In Daz3D

Ok rock stars, here is our Flex design wheelchair animation in Daz3D. With a few quick steps you can have fun creating your own wheelchair animation in Daz3D at home for free. Download a free version of Daz 3D from their website. Previously I showed how to import 3D models and figures, set colors, textures, clothing, pose the figures and so on. Now let’s have some 3D anim movie fun.

Wheelchair Wheel Rotation

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To setup your wheelchair wheel rotation open Daz3D and click the Pose & Animate tab. 1) Import your wheels to the zero point. 2) Set X Rotate to 720. 3) Set Y Translate to 31. 4) On the timeline set 91 frames, a range of 0 to 90, and drop the frames per second (FPS) to 20. 5) On frame 90 set Z Translate to -389.36. Render to see if your wheelchair wheel rotation is correct and matches the distance. 

It might be worth explaining how I calculated wheel rotation and distance. 2 PI R equals the circumference of a circle. Imagine wrapping a string around the tyre then laying it out flat, we want to know that measurement to sync the wheel rotation to distance. PI is 3.14 and R (radius) is 31. So 3.14 x 31 x 2 = 194.68 for one full wheel rotation. Times 2 again for two wheel rotations and we get 389.36.

Posing Disabled Wheelchair Model

Now the wheelchair animation is looking good we start posing disabled wheelchair model Michael. Sit him in our flex wheelchair at frame zero and on frame 90 set Z Translate to -389.36. Then add key-frames and adjust his chest, arms, hands etc to give the illusion he’s pushing the wheelchair. Take a few renders going back and tweaking to achieve a realistic motion. Here’s our paraplegic hunk Michael in motion.

Sweet, all we do now is set a scene add a few lights and drop in a background. Indoor lighting can be a bit tricky in Daz3D so I won’t bore you with all that here. Just know in Daz3D you need raytracing on at least one light to get a realistic shadow effect. Here we have the sunlight (distant light) coming through the window and four down lights (spotlights) all set with raytracing on.

And with that I’m off to watch The Lorax.

Wheelchair Lovers Dating Paraplegics

We have been dating for about a month now. Our relationship is still as exciting as it was on our first dating paraplegic girls night you may have read about. We have a very open relationship at work now that Jeff is comfortable with dating paraplegics and wheelchair lovers. We have even made friends with other wheelchair couples who are new to dating.

Cindy is a paraplegic girlfriend of mine. I’ve known her for a few years. We met in a social group for disabled women I used to be involved in. Like me, she is a paraplegic in a manual wheelchair, but she retains some feeling in the lower parts of her legs and feet. There is another friend of mine from the same group that is a double arm amputee. She uses prosthetic hooks. I would like to take her out with Jeff and I sometime. Recently, a co-worker Rick, told Jeff he is interested in dating wheelchair lovers. So we set Cindy and Rick up on a double date. Two wheelchair couples means twice the fun!

Rick had often asked Jeff things about wheelchair lovers. He asked if I had any paraplegic wheelchair friends that might be interested in dating. Of course, I knew just the girl. Cindy is very attractive and interested in dating wheelchair lovers. She exercises her legs most every day to keep the muscle tone. She’s had a better head start on that than I did, because she’s only been a paraplegic for a few years after an accident left her paralyzed. She joined the group for support and we became instant friends. She tells me I am brave wearing skirts and dresses all the time with high heels and nylons, showing off my thin legs.

dating paraplegic wheelchair lovers nylon stockings

Wheelchair lovers nylon stockings

Her legs look great, having not lost much muscle tone due to her regular exercises and therapy. Her doctors say she may even regain some movement, but for now she spends her day’s mobile only through her wheelchair. She always wears pants and very safe tops, even though she has a chest that any man would want to see more of. She has a hard time believing a handicapped girl in a wheelchair can be sexy – so tonight when we go out, she’s agreed to let me chose what she wears! Since we’re the same size, from waist up anyway) I’ve promised her something very sexy from my own wardrobe that is going to cause Rick’s eyes to bulge!

Couples Dating Wheelchair Lovers

So far, we have been on three dates with Cindy and Rick. Rick’s curiosity of wheelchair lovers is paying off. He enjoys dating is new paraplegic girlfriend. He has yet to see Cindy’s legs. He’s been polite; not talking about her disability since he knows it makes her a little shy. And except for a few kisses, there has been no intimacy between them. She has never even been out of her wheelchair when she’s around him. But they make a cute couple and are getting along really well.

Cindy asked me about the leg braces I wear at work, if I like using them and how they feel on my legs. She swears she would never wear them but I’m going to see if I can change that. Of course she couldn’t wear my right one, since my leg is shorter and right shoe smaller for my smaller foot. But my left one is just right I think. I know she wears the same size shoes as I do on my left foot, and the length is right. The only thing may be it fitting too tight around her leg, since my legs are so thin. We’ll just have to see I guess.

So right after work we head to my house in our separate cars. Cindy is used to driving with her hand controls that are just like mine. The only difference is her wheelchair easily collapses so she can load the chair into her car after she gets in. She just has to re-assemble it when she gets where she’s going which only takes a few minutes.

I arrived home first, and when she wheeled up my ramp to my open front door I was still in my braces but using my wheelchair to move around the house. I was still in my skirt and blouse from work, and had my right leg crossed over my left one in my chair. She knew my house well and made herself at home with a drink from the kitchen. I told her I was going to wash up before changing clothes and she could do the same since I have the accessible shower. She went ahead since I still had to take my leg braces off and undress.

Naked Paraplegic Girls Wheelchair Beauty

From my bedroom, I could see her undressing in her wheelchair in my bathroom – lifting her legs to her lap to remove her flat dress shoes, wiggling out of her pants and panties, and taking her blouse and bra off. While I took the straps loose from my braces, I watched her transfer from her chair to the shower chair and pull her legs into the stall behind her. Even though I have to do these things myself every day, it’s still interesting to see how another paraplegic does things. Also, to see another beautiful woman doing them is a treat too. I’m not a lesbian by any means, but I do admire her very attractive body.

So I finished with my braces, and removed my limp feet one at a time from my three-inch pumps. I left the braces on the bed, shoes attached, hoping they would spark interest in Cindy and she would want to at least try them. I didn’t want to push her into anything she wouldn’t be comfortable with but a little secretive suggestion like this wouldn’t hurt!

I laid back and pulled at the waistband of my white pantyhose, sliding them down my thighs leaving my panties on since I had a guest in the house. I sat up and pulled my left leg to my chest to pull the hose off over my thin knee and calf, then off my foot. Same for the right leg and tossed the pantyhose in the laundry. The blouse followed the hose, and I was left sitting in just my bra and panties when I heard the water shut off.

I looked through the hallway to see the curtain slide and Cindy sitting there. She looked embarrassed when she noticed me, not because of her naked wet body sitting there but because she realized she had forgotten to get a towel before getting in the shower. I quickly pulled myself off the bed to my wheelchair and lifted my legs together into the footrests. I grabbed two towels, and laid one in her wheelchair for her and tossed her the other. My bathroom is big, but not big enough for two wheelchairs. So I sat in the hall while Cindy dried and transferred back to her waiting wheelchair.

We made small talk while she pulled her panties from her bag and got ready to pull them on her limp legs, which were crossed in her wheelchair with her towel around her midsection. Like I said, we’re the same size in most respects, so I told her to wait a sec before she put those panties on, I might have something special for her. She started to protest saying it wouldn’t matter, no one will see them but her, but I reminded her of her promise to me.

Sex And Intimacy With Wheelchair Lovers

Cindy longed to be intimate with a man. She had not had sex since becoming paralyzed so she was long overdue. It takes time for wheelchair lovers to build self confidence and be intimate. I promised her tonight was her night. If she would just take a little advice and forget for one night that she was disabled. Sex with paralyzed girls is the same as sex with any girl. I know she likes Rick and he is a confident wheelchair lover. I told her to act like any other date she had ever been on, and let Rick know she likes him. No doubt he wouldn’t be able to keep his hands off her. I also suggested she come out of her wheelchair to make love. For newly dating wheelchair lovers sex in a wheelchair can be a little tricky.

I told her to come to the bedroom. I had three brand new still in the packs pair of expensive panties that were very, very sexy. A wheelchair lovers delight. One silky white pair, one black pair with some lacy trim, and a bright red pair. All with bras to match I told her. She was playfully protesting, but I knew she was ready for this. She chose the black lacy ones, and slipped the bra onto her large breasts. I told her to get on the bed because there was no way she would get pantyhose on sitting in her wheelchair. She knew I was putting her in a skirt or dress of some kind, but hadn’t given thought to the pantyhose.

dating paraplegic wheelchair lovers black bra and pantyhose

Wheelchair lovers black bra and pantyhose

“Can’t I just go with my legs bare?” she asked me. I told her how a lot of men like the feeling of pantyhose on a woman’s legs. That clinging nylon, smooth as silk over a wheelchair lovers legs just does something to a man. Add the intrigue of those legs being paralyzed and it’s got to be very exciting for a man who is into dating paraplegic girls.

Experimenting With Leg Braces Dating Paraplegics

Cindy pulled her legs onto the bed and pushed against her wheelchair, sliding her bottom on and pushing her useless legs out across in front of her. Having been a paraplegic only a short while, she was very agile and good at making transfers out of her chair. As she pushed across the bed, her foot came to rest on the metal of my leg braces. “Wow, that’s cold!” she said, referring to the cold steel of my braces against the bottom of her foot. I almost forgot she still has some feeling in her legs and feet, something I have none of.

“How do you really walk in those things, they look so uncomfortable! And those high heels have to be hard to manage too.” I told her with a little getting used to, she could get used to them pretty quick. And they give you more accessibility than a wheelchair does, there are lots of advantages. The shoes, that’s just my preference. I like to look sexy, and Jeff likes them.

“Why don’t you just put one on, and see how it feels on your leg. It’s just the two of us here, you might be surprised.” I told her. She actually said okay, she wanted to see how it felt. She confided she watched me a lot, swinging through my crutches, watching my shorter leg with the buildup, and seeing my left leg drag the ground a little when I swing through. She had watched me many times work the knee locks, and cross my legs in my office chair so she knew how they worked.

I told her to grab the left one, since the right one would be too small for her foot. She positioned herself straight on the bed, and pulled her left leg out straight in front of her. I spun around in my wheelchair to my drawer where I had several new packs of pantyhose. I threw her a suntan pair and she looked at me like “What am I going to do with these?” She opened them and pulled them out, stretching them a little. She told me she wasn’t sure how to put pantyhose on since she has been paralyzed, and she always thought it must be impossible with legs that don’t work.

So I instructed her: “Take one side and just roll them up until you get to the bottom. Pull your leg up to your chest and with your leg between your arms, pull the stocking onto your toes, then around your heel and up around your ankle.” She did these things, sloppily at first but got the nylon around her foot. “Now just let your leg fall while you let the hose out pulling it up your leg.” She did as instructed, and was amazed when she saw she had pantyhose on up past her knee. She did the same with her right leg, and wiggled around until she had both thighs covered. Leaning back, she pulled the top over her black panties and around the waist. She stared in awe at her newly decorated legs.

After a few seconds she told me she could even feel the stretchy nylon around her feet and some of her legs where she had some feeling. I was surprised to see how tightly stretched they were over her legs. I always buy the small size, since my legs are so thin, and my right one a little shorter. My legs don’t come close to filling out a pair of hose, and usually show a few wrinkles where they are loose on my legs. Her tone legs filled them out nicely and kept them smooth from her hips to her feet.

It was time now for her to put the brace on. Cindy laid the brace out beside her leg, and lifted her leg over into the steel cradle of the brace. I ask her if she minded a little help, and went to the end of the bed to help her on with the shoe. Feeling her limp foot in the nylon gave me a jolt of excitement as I put her toes in the high-heeled shoe and pushed her foot the rest of the way in. She had just about finished with the straps, and in a few seconds her leg was rigid from the steel brace.

Standing After Paraplegia With Leg Braces

I was right, the brace was pressing into her leg in some places where her legs are bigger than mine, but just for trying it out they would do fine. I turned for my crutches, and told Cindy to swing her legs to the side of the bed. She pulled her left leg by the brace, and her right one by the knee, and pulled it out over the bed. I locked the knee of the brace for her with her leg outstretched and handed her the forearm crutches. She placed her arms in the crutches and put them to the floor. Slowly she slid off the bed until she was leaning on her left leg. She pulled herself the rest of the way up until she was standing upright, looking great in just her bra and pantyhose, wearing the one brace and letting her other leg hang freely.

Her toes pointed down and dangled above the floor because of the three-inch pump on her left leg. I could see the excitement in her – standing for the first time since her accident. I told her how to take a step, and with caution she put the crutches out in front of her and swung her braced leg to them, letting her right leg dangle behind. Then another step, and another, and soon she was crutching around the bedroom and doing quite well. I told her after she got used to Rick seeing her legs, and watching her move around she could wear my leg brace out one night with him. But for tonight she would use her wheelchair as normal, so she returned to the bed and removed the brace.

Brace off now, we had to get Cindy dressed. I needed to get dressed too, as I was still in my bra and panties. I went to the bathroom and quickly washed off while Cindy and I talked about her shyness and letting Rick see her bare legs, and seeing her outside of her wheelchair where she would have to move her legs with her hands. I told her that it’s something Rick wants to see, and to have some fun with it. Let him help her out of her chair, and move her legs. I told her how Jeff even likes to put my leg braces on and off for me, and how that one time I even let him put my pantyhose on for me.

Dressing to Impress Wheelchair Lovers

I returned to the bedroom, and headed for the closet. I had the cutest red skirt for Cindy, with a too-tight black blouse. The skirt is a little shorter than knee length, and had a slit in one side. Cindy pulled her legs to her, and slipped the skirt over them and up around her waist, adjusting it after it was on – a perfect fit. Then the blouse over her firm, round breasts and she was almost ready. I went through my shoes and found a pair of peep-toe pumps I had never worn. They were both the size of my left foot, so they would fit her feet nicely. She pulled her legs to her chest again and slid the shoes over her feet. She was gorgeous! I had worked magic I thought and I knew Rick would feel the same way.

I pulled her wheelchair to the bed, and she slid off into it. I could see that with just the right movement, her shiny nylon-clad thigh could be seen through that slit in the skirt.  She put her legs into the footrests and moved back so I could get to the bed. I had picked a light flowered sundress that hugged my body tightly, nude hose, and these open toed heels with the thin straps.

wheelchair lovers dating paraplegics dessing to impress

wheelchair lovers dating paraplegics dessing to impress

I was a little self conscious about my feet being seen, I have to be honest, but I was trying to make a point for Cindy that it was all okay to be put out in the open. Cindy watched as I dressed now, commenting on my quickness from being paralyzed my whole life and so used to doing everything without the use of my legs. We were both in our wheelchairs, legs crossed and skirts hiked up just a little when Jeff and Rick arrived.

This was the moment of truth for Cindy – Rick was about to see Cindy’s paralyzed legs for the first time. And great legs they were, I would love to have the muscle tone in my legs that Cindy has in hers. The knock came at the door, and we hollered for them to come in. Jeff came in first, followed by Rick. I could see Rick’s eyes bulge as he saw his beautiful date – more of her this time than he had seen in the past. She smiled at him and gave a little twirl in her wheelchair while he complimented her outfit and stunning appearance.

Wheelchair Couples Disability Dating

We decided on taking separate cars since we had two wheelchairs, and that Cindy and I would drive. Once outside, I watched Cindy make her transfer to her car while Rick stood beside her trying not to look down at her pulling her legs inside. It was amusing really, knowing how badly he wanted to look. Jeff and I shared a little laugh about that. Cindy instructed him on how to break down her chair, and put it in the backseat. Jeff helped me into my car by picking me up out of my chair and putting me in the seat. He loves to do that – he carries me all the time. My chair disappeared into the rooftop lift and we were off to dinner.

Dinner was wonderful – we must have spent two hours at the restaurant talking, and drinking. I noticed Rick whispering to Cindy, then in the next second his hand slide into her wheelchair and rubbing the inside of her leg, just below her skirt. He must have asked if he could rub her leg, and I’m glad she told him he could.

When we left, I got Jeff to drive my car, and he picked me up again and put me in the passenger seat. Rick drove Cindy’s car too, and she made her transfer to the passenger seat, pulling her legs in behind her, only this time, she showed a little bit more of her legs to Rick as her skirt rode up high while she pulled her legs in the car. His eyes were trained on her legs, and she didn’t seem to mind. She was finally starting to become comfortable with her disability around him. And Rick was very happy dating paraplegic girls.

Back at my house I ditched my chair for the comfort of the couch, and pulled the straps loose from my heels, taking them off my feet. Jeff picked my legs up and sat under me, rubbing my calves with his hands. Of course I couldn’t feel his hands on my legs, but knowing his hands were on my legs like that began to arouse me. I could tell Jeff was getting aroused too, but we still had company so our fun would have to wait. I could tell Cindy was still unsure of what to do. I told her to get comfortable on the loveseat across from Jeff and I, and Jeff could put a movie in for us to watch. Jeff slid out from under my legs and headed to the bedroom for a DVD.

Rick offered a hand to Cindy as she transferred her bottom to the couch, and the lifted her legs from the footrests onto the couch and folding them almost under her. Her skirt played its trick again, and I almost felt bad for giving her one with so much exposure to her thighs! Her toes still peeked out from the front of her pumps, and I could tell she was nervous about taking them off in front of her date. Rick had sat beside her, and placed his hand back on her leg.

He wouldn’t dare ask her to remove her shoes, but being cuddled on the couch would seem silly with high heels on, so Cindy began taking them off. She didn’t make a deal of moving her legs much, just pulling the pumps off one at a time, revealing her feet now in just the nylons. She slid back on the couch farther, letting her legs move where they wanted while she kept them together, not wanting to reveal too much of her thighs. Sliding back made her skirt ride up a little farther, making the dark top of her pantyhose peek out under the slit of the skirt. Rick didn’t seem to notice, and she quickly pulled her skirt back into place.

They got comfortable as Jeff returned with the movie, and came to sit back under my legs on the couch. He had turned the lights low and the movie on, and we made the most of the time by pulling a blanket over us so we could rub each other without being seen. I noticed our date partners doing the same, and I could only imagine what Cindy’s naughty hands were doing to Rick under that blanket. Surely she was priming him for what was to come later.

We had already arranged to have the both of them stay with me, in my guest bedroom, for the night, so I wasn’t surprised when they decided to cut the movie short, and go to the bedroom early. Rick ask as he was getting up if she minded if he carried her to the guest bedroom. She obliged, and he took her by the waist, and under her knees and whisked her off down the hallway, the both of them telling us good night while her limp legs flopped a little as Rick walked. Somehow I knew for them, it would turn out to be a good night!

Kristi Eden

All you ever wanted to know about dating paraplegics and wheelchair users

Dating Paraplegics the Ultimate Guide

Dating paraplegics and wheelchair usersThere are many reasons for and against dating paraplegics and wheelchair users. We answer the common and complex questions people have in “Dating Paraplegics the Ultimate Guide”. Some answers may surprise, we cover all you need to know dating wheelchair users in short easy to understand terms.

“Dating Paraplegics the Ultimate Guide” is a great read for anyone dating. Begin to date a wheelchair user the right way. Discover the secrets to dating paraplegics and wheelchair users.

Dating Paraplegics and Wheelchair Users

  1. Pushy: I want to ask a wheelchair user out but I’m afraid I will scare them off.

    True: You may scare them off, so don’t hang around waiting for a relationship that will never happen. Go ahead and ask them out. They may feel the same way about you. Be creative, “If you behave, I will let you take me out to dinner Friday night.” Most who feel the same way will be flattered. At least you will then know where you stand.

  2. Personal Care Nurse: I don’t want to be a care nurse. That is to much work for me. I don’t want to help with personal care, help toilet shower and dress etc. It is a huge burden and turn-off.

    True: It is a huge responsibility yes. It is alright to feel that way. But you do not have to be their care nurse. They got along fine before they met you. And they will be fine if you leave. Paraplegics are quite able to take care of their own personal hygiene. The very few paraplegics who do need some help with personal care will have, or should get, support services in place.

  3. No Sex: Dating a paraplegic wheelchair user means no sex. They can’t feel it so they don’t enjoy sex or make love very often.

    False: Sex is not usually one of the things we talk about on a first date. Most men and women dating paraplegics do report a healthy active sex life. Those in long term relationships with paraplegics describe them as above average lovers. Some may, but don’t expect all of us to talk about sex on the first date.

  4. Bad Sex: Paraplegics are bad in bed. They just lay there all paralyzed and lifeless during sex.

    False: Paraplegics have great upper body strength. Most can be on top if they want to. Paraplegics are physically active and hands on during the act of love making. If things are boring introduce scented candles, oils, music etc. Appeal to the other senses. Wheelchair users are very visual when it comes to foreplay and sex.

  5. Erections: All wheelchair users have trouble getting and keeping an erection.

    False: What you need to know is if their Spinal Cord Injury is “complete” or “incomplete.” Most with SCI are incomplete. They can get an erection by touching or rubbing their penis, or in the case of girls, wet by rubbing their clitoris. Generally it is only men with a complete spinal cord injury who find it hard to get and keep an erection.

  6. No Children: People in wheelchairs can’t have children. They should not have children. Dating a paraplegic you will not be able to start a family. They can’t look after or raise children very well.

    False: Paraplegic women have the same chance of conceiving a child as any other fertile woman. Pregnancy and childbirth are carried out in much the same way as able-bodied women. Paraplegic women make excellent mothers. Paraplegic men have a slightly lower fertility rate than other men do. Paraplegic men make excellent fathers.

  7. Bad Genes: People with a spinal cord injury have a high risk of giving birth to disabled babies.

    False: A spinal cord injury is not genetic. It cannot be passed on to children.

  8. Short Life Span: Wheelchair users don’t live as long as regular people.

    True: Doctors say a spinal cord injury can shorten an otherwise 80 year life span by a year or two. However, by far the biggest factor influencing life span is lifestyle.

  9. Scarred For Life: Wheelchair users have nasty scars weird legs and a fucked up body.

    True: Most paraplegics do have some scars. In fact most people over 25 have some scars. Injuries involving broken bones require surgery. Unless obvious only trusted people get to see a paraplegics scars. Behind every scar is a story. Paraplegics often have thin limp legs (flaccid legs). Most have a well defined strong upper body to compensate.

  10. Angry: I have been dating paraplegics for some time, they are angry hurtful and mean. I figure it will get better in time.

    False: If you are dating a spinal cord injury wheelchair user who is mean and angry, 90% of the time you will come to find they were mean and angry before the wheelchair. Everybody has their bad days but that is no excuse. You should never tolerate abuse. Do not make threats to leave. Pack up and leave. At the very least, move away from anyone who is angry and abusive to you.

  11. Easy Target: Wheelchair users are easy to rape use and abuse for sex.

    False: Wheelchair users have open access to protective services and often carry a vital call alarm. The rape and abuse of disabled people is a very serious crime. Paraplegics can fight back. They have more upper body strength than regular people and know how to use it.

  12. Easy to Disable: I feel safe dating paraplegics because I can easy tip them out of their wheelchair if they annoy me.

    False: You can tip them out but they can get back in quickly and heaven help you when they do. When others learn of what you have done you will not be safe. Never tip any wheelchair user out of their chair unless they ask you to.

  13. Baggage: When dating paraplegics you have to put their wheelchair in the car. Lift them in and out of the car. Carry a butt-load of medical supplies. It’s just a big drama to go out.

    False: Paraplegics can transfer from their wheelchair into a car without help. Some use a sliding board (short smooth board to slide on) to make it safe and easy. They can pull their wheelchair apart and stow it in the back seat of the car. It is polite to offer assistance. Don’t feel bad if it is refused. Many paraplegics will already drive their own car with hand controls.

  14. Catheters: I want to know what the deal is with catheters but I do not want to seem rude and ask my date how they pee and stuff. Should I just go ahead and ask?

    True: Yes go ahead and ask. Most dating paraplegics and wheelchair users don’t find such questions rude. They are happy to talk about and explain how they go to the bathroom. After all, if things go well, you will both get more intimate than that at some point. It is good to know how your wheelchair partner functions before that happens.

  15. Repulsed: I cannot get over the catheter thing. It really turns me off sex.

    True: It is fair to say that kind of thing is not pretty. No paraplegic likes having to poke a tube up their private to drain their bladder, but they don’t get much choice. Ask them how they got over it. Give it some time and you might get more used to the idea. If the catheter is in during sex, ask them about taking it out for sex. Most paraplegics can go without a catheter for several hours.

  16. Parking Permit: I am only dating paraplegics for the parking.

    False: You are only easy to please or just butt lazy. Disability parking permits only apply to people who medically qualify for them. Sticker or no sticker, if they are not in the car, you may not park there. Everyone knows the best thing about dating paraplegics is the oral sex!

  17. Restricted Access: You miss out on things dating paraplegics. It’s like dragging an anchor around. You can only go places that have wheelchair access. That means boring and not spontaneous.

    False: Many people dating paraplegics enjoy all kinds of physical activities. They can fly, hike, swim, etc. and play most any sport. Night clubs, rock concerts and cinemas are just a few places where wheelchair users are given priority seating and access.

  18. Opening Doors: Should I open the door?

    False: Ask them, “May I get the door for you?” If you do open it, don’t stand in the way or stretch your arm out for them to go under. In general when dating paraplegics it’s polite for a man to open the door for a woman.

  19. Travel: There are limited places to go dating paraplegics and it costs extra to travel.

    False: Paraplegics often qualify for discounted fares. Some airlines allow a companion to fly free with any full fare paying wheelchair user. No country in the world bans wheelchair users or dating paraplegics. It may just take a little more planning.

  20. Beaches: Don’t go to the beach when dating paraplegics. They get stuck in soft sand.

    True: A standard manual push chair will get stuck in soft sand. You can drag them through backwards but that will exhaust you quickly. Wheelchair users love the beach and warm sunny places. Just stick to beaches with a boardwalk or pier until you get to know what they are capable of. They might prefer a quad bike or 4 wheel drive.

  21. Never Say Walk: It’s rude to say let’s go for a walk when dating paraplegics.

    False: They don’t care. They know what you mean.

  22. Second Person: If someone asks me, what my date wants, should I answer for them?

    False: Politely tell them to ask your date instead.

  23. Income: I do not want to work all day while they sit at home and do nothing.

    True: Paraplegics do sit all day. Many work part-time to supplement a disability pension or hold down a full-time job. Some are career professionals. They may not like you sitting around doing nothing all day either.

  24. House Maid: Dating paraplegics is good because they like to pick up after you.

    False: You won’t be dating paraplegics for long if you are messy. Wheelchair users do not like clothes left on the floor. They get tangled in their castor wheels, and may cause them to fall from their chair. They do not like to pick up after you. That includes your friends, if they make a mess, they better clean it up.

  25. Home Access: Back at their home they told me, “Don’t touch my stuff.” But I am not a klutz.

    True: It is something dating paraplegics have to say a lot. Not because you are a klutz. If they go for the phone in an emergency, only to find you have moved it beyond their reach, you may cause them harm. Their stuff may look out of place to you, and most won’t mind you touching, but always put things back the way you found them.

  26. Yard Work: Can they mow the lawn and keep the yard tidy?

    True: Gardening is a very popular hobby amongst wheelchair users. Paraplegics can drive ride on mowers, tractors, harvesters, handle a saw etc. Most with a house in the suburbs pay someone to mow their lawn, and clean the gutters out. The rest they can take care of. Pot plants, home gardens, and raised garden beds are easy to look after.

  27. Drug Addicts: Paraplegics are a good source of drugs.

    False: Paraplegics require little to no medication. They avoid taking prescribed drugs as much as possible.

  28. Retarded: All wheelchair users are retarded in some way. A spinal cord injury causes brain damage. Paraplegics have all kinds of emotional issues and mental problems.

    False: A spinal cord injury is certainly a traumatic event. It does not cause brain damage. For the most part, rehab after a spinal cord injury gives paraplegics a new lease on life. Paraplegics who are open to dating are more than often well adjusted, and emotionally well balanced.

  29. Plenty Of Fish: There are so many non-disabled why bother dating the disabled?

    True: There are more able-bodied. Dating paraplegics is just as risky and rewarding as dating able-bodied people. No one group or type of person should be excluded. But we all have our own likes and dislikes. We are all free to chose who we date.

  30. Approval: Pressure from family and friends. He is only dating paraplegic girls because he can’t get a real woman. My friends and family don’t approve.

    False: This is a very narrow minded and ignorant statement for anyone to make. There are many positives to dating paraplegics. More than often in public these days those dating paraplegics get noticed and praised. Paraplegics are smart people. They will be quick to tell anyone with such bias opinions to grow up or go away.

  31. Rejection: I would like to date a paraplegic but I know nothing about disability and wheelchair life. I am afraid I will be rejected.

    True: Your advances may be declined, not because you know nothing about disability. When it comes to love, the feeling is not always mutual. C’est la vie (such is life). If a disabled person rejects you it does not mean you are un-lovable. They simply aren’t ready to date or don’t feel a strong enough love attraction toward you.

  32. Bunny Boiler: Wheelchair users are very needy. If I am dating paraplegics and it doesn’t work out, when I leave they will have plenty of time on their hands to stalk me.

    False: With that attitude they will be glad to see you leave. Paraplegics are no more or less needy than anyone else. They got over breaking their spine, I’m sure they will get over you.

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Disability Fetish and Medical Fetish

A fetish is like a spider web. A fetish means to have a sexual arousal to an object behavior or type of person. Simple enough, until you try to describe an individual’s fetish to someone. It is like trying to guide them to one particular span of a spider web, without pointing at it. Adding to the complexity many fetish can overlap each other. A person with a disability fetish may also have some parts of a medical fetish. We separate the two, explain them, and look at their differences.

I think most of us have been guilty of over using the term fetish at one time or another. Bragging about your favorite fishing rod does not mean you have a fishing rod fetish. While I have heard some of my friends describe their fishing rod as if it were an extension of their penis, in clinical terms it does not qualify as a fetish.

Disability Fetish

Abasiophilia is the medical term given to those who are sexually aroused by and attracted to disabled people. It may be a minor disability like missing fingers, or a profound one like blindness. Some of the most common disability fetish are a strong sexual attraction to amputee’s and paralyzed wheelchair users such as paraplegics and quadriplegics with a spinal cord injury.

wheelchair disability fetish woman

Wheelchair disability fetish woman with crutches and neck brace

The extreme form of disability fetish is a very strong desire to be disabled. So strong, a person with an extreme disability fetish may elect to have their legs broken, limbs amputated, or even paralyzed by having their spinal cord cut. These people are often called wheelchair wannabes, because they are attracted to and want to be in a wheelchair.

I know of one girl who loves wheelchairs so much she spent her first year of college living in one. At the end of the year she went to stand up out of the wheelchair and collapsed on the floor. By using a wheelchair for so long her leg muscles had wasted and they could no longer support her. She was quite happy about her new found disability.

Many find it hard to understand why any one would want to have a perfectly healthy limb amputated. I try to explain it this way. They do not find perfect people attractive. They see disabled as normal, and normal people as disabled. With an extreme atypical disability fetish they can feel very uncomfortable with a healthy limb. Only once that limb is disabled or removed do they feel good with it.

Less extreme disability fetish include the sexual arousal and attraction to disability equipment. The medical term for this is Paraphilia. By wearing leg braces, plaster casts, and using a wheelchair to feel disabled, they become sexually aroused. You may have heard of the term wheelchair pretender. Because wheelchair pretenders fake a disability for sexual arousal they are a much maligned group. Wheelchair pretenders are not seen in public very often. Please don’t go tipping people out of their wheelchair because you think they are faking it.

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A disability fetish does not have to be a love of a particular object. It can take many forms. Some feel a strong sexual attraction to the actual disabled person. In the case of spinal cord injury they are known as wheelchair devotees. With an attraction to wheelchair users, a wheelchair devotee often knows what life in a wheelchair is like. Therefore, they make good lovers and life partners to wheelchair users.

Very few real wheelchair users have a disability fetish. They only use a wheelchair because they have to. Most wheelchair users do have an interest in disability and medical devices but it is not a sexual attraction or arousal. Wheelchair users may also be attracted to other wheelchair users, but again it is not usually in a disability fetish, or love interest kind of way. They are simply interested in like-minded people.

Medical Fetish

An atypical medical fetish is a strong attraction to medical apparatus purely for erotic sexual gratification. People with an extreme medical fetish use torturous medical devices, speculum’s, mouth and anal spreaders, enema kits, probes etc. They may even consent to false operations where they are surgically opened, and with nothing fixed or removed, sutured closed. An extreme medical fetish can be a dangerous thing.

Medical fetish woman in wheelchair and neck brace

Medical fetish woman in wheelchair and neck brace

In recent clinical observations extreme medical fetish are being aligned with identity disorders and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorders). OCD are an anxiety disorder in which people have unwanted and repeated thoughts, feelings, ideas, obsessions, or behaviors. They get a very strong compolsion to think or act a certain way. Often when it is acted on it results in self harm. For example, an obsession to wear a neck collar constantly will result in weak neck muscles causing all kinds of harmful problems. We do not condone self harm in any way.

Our featured model is sexually aroused by a skin tight rubber dress, wheelchair and stiff neck collar. It is not a case of extreme fetish or OCD. The restrictive elements are disability fetish. She likes the feeling of being disabled that they give. The apparatus that excite her, wheelchair and neck collar, are medical fetish. This is a prime example of how several fetish can overlap.

These less extreme medical fetish, the sexual arousal of wearing orthopedic leg braces (calipers), plaster casts, spinal braces, and wheelchairs are common. In such settings the wheelchair simply becomes a device to fuel erotic pleasure. The same way some people find a vibrator or lingerie sexually arousing. Some like the feel some like the look. For the most part these mild forms of medical fetish are harmless.

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A medical fetish can include a sexual attraction to medical people. Doctor and nurse porn movies, people receiving medical examinations and so on. Most are simply role play, and they are not very good actors at that. You know, the movies where the patient suddenly finds their spinal cord injury is cured by the sight of a half dressed doctor or nurse, and well… you can guess the rest. If it were only that easy I would be walking. These “actors” give doctor’s, nurses, wheelchair pretenders and real wheelchair users a bad name.

It is rare for a real wheelchair user with a spinal cord injury to have a disability fetish. They may be interested in medical apparatus, wheelchairs and mobility equipment. They may have a great appreciation for doctors and nurses. But seldom is it in a sexual medical fetish way. Just as some people with a spinal cord injury use an enema, it is not by choice, they consider it a chore. We don’t find probes sexy.

Conclusions

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Wheelchair fetish disability fetish medical fetish woman

Disability fetish are grossly mis-represented in the commercial sex industry. Gimp calendars and videos of amputees having sex are a poor representation of real life. In true atypical form a disability fetish is a sexual arousal to disability equipment or a desire to be disabled. A medical fetish can range from an attraction to wheelchairs to torturous medical devices. In the extreme a fetish can be harmful to your health.

Most disabled wheelchair users do not like to see wheelchair pretenders use a wheelchair to gain pity, sympathy, money, or special service. Neither does the general public. Wheelchair devotees are attracted to wheelchair users and so make good partners to them in love and life. However, not all wheelchair devotees have the best interests of wheelchair users in mind.

Resources

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Dating Paraplegic Girls

Dating Paraplegic Girls

This is the story of how I met Jeff and our first date together.  Dating paraplegic girls isn’t for everyone.  Jeff doesn’t seem to mind dating paraplegic girls or that I’m handicapped.  We have really hit it off.  I still can’t believe, if I wasn’t running late for work that day, we may have never met.  Being in a rush, I decided to go in my wheelchair, without the leg braces I usually wear.  I am a paraplegic, paralyzed from just above my waist down to my feet.  I have been a paraplegic since I was a little girl.  I’ve really never known anything different.

My legs are very thin and flaccid, but I still think of myself as attractive, even sexy.  I’ve have long flowing hair over a pretty face and large breasts over a tiny waist.  My ample breasts are my best feature so I like to show them off a little with a tight blouse.  Most men say I’m attractive but are not interested in dating paraplegic girls or dating wheelchair girls in general.  I guess it’s just hard for some men to commit to a relationship with a handicapped girl. Most of the reasons I have been given for not dating paraplegic girls are based on false beliefs.

Wheelchair Friendly Workplace

I work in a big wheelchair friendly office building where I have to go from room to room a lot. About a year ago I started wearing long leg braces and using crutches to maneuver around the building. It’s much easier than getting a wheelchair through crowded hallways and elevators. The braces start at the tops of my thighs and go down to knee locks so I can bend my legs if I’m sitting. From there they go down to my ankles where I can attach any number of shoes I like to wear.

I have all kinds of shoes from athletic shoes to sandals for the summer.  My favorites though are the high heels I wear at work.  I have all kinds, mostly around three inch.  My right leg is also a little shorter than my left one, another part of my disability.  My right leg just stopped growing when I was about 13 and my left leg continued to grow until I was about 17.  It’s really not that much difference, but to make up for it most of my shoes have a built-up sole on the right side, and are one size smaller since that foot is smaller.

Why Use a Wheelchair Leg Braces and Crutches

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Dating disabled girls leg braces

I’ve learned to use my leg braces pretty well and walk with a swing through gait. That means I put both forearm crutches out in front of me and swing both legs through the middle.  Since I don’t have any control of my waist or legs my shorter right leg kind of swings first and my left drags the floor just a little as it swings through.  Wearing leg braces under slacks is difficult.  I am used to people staring at my legs as I am almost always in a skirt or dress.  Once it would have made me uncomfortable.  Now I even like to show the leg braces off a little.  Sometimes my skirts barely cover the thigh straps on the tops of my braces.

I’ve become used to wearing pantyhose too which I never used to do.  Without the pantyhose, the pads on the braces rub my legs too much.  But that day I was just in my wheelchair wearing a little skirt just above my knees.  The blouse was a little on the tight side with pantyhose and my two inch platform style heels.  Getting around in my leg braces on crutches is slow and I’ve fallen many times.  My wheelchair is safer and faster but I cannot stand up to reach things without the leg braces. So I mostly use both wheelchair and leg braces together. Guys into dating paraplegic girls are often into stockings and pantyhose as well.

Meeting Paraplegic Girls

When I use my wheelchair I don’t need a pair of shoes with a build-up.  There’s no reason to and it’s hardly noticeable.  The footrests on my chair are in the middle and close together. The right footrest plate is just a little higher to make up the difference in my leg length.  I was on the way to the file room when I took a corner too fast and actually ran into this very handsome man in a suit.  I was so embarrassed!  Not so much because I ran into him, but when I did, my right foot actually came off the footrest, knocking my shoe off.

Not having any feeling in my legs or feet I didn’t know my shoe was off until I noticed the man kept looking down.  I looked too and could see the pink polish on my toenails through my tan pantyhose.  Now most everyone has seen my legs of course, but I realized at that moment no one at work has ever seen my bare feet.  They are so limp and thin. I was really was embarrassed. This man had to see me pick my leg up with my hands and get my foot back on the footrest of the wheelchair.

I’ve noticed before that people like to stare.  Especially men dating paraplegic girls.  They like to see how a handicapped girl moves her legs with her hands getting out of a car, and things like that.  Sometimes, when I know I have an audience, I put on a little show.  I struggle a little more than I really have to.  Not this time.  After the man noticed my red face, he quickly looked away, fumbling around reaching for my shoe.  He handed the shoe to me awkwardly.  He looked so cute now blushing just as much as I was.  I thanked him and pulled my leg up by lifting under one knee.  This makes my foot point down. I hooked my toes with the shoe and pulled it onto the heel of my foot.  He introduced himself as Jeff. We both made our apologies and started talking about where we were going, what our jobs were, who we knew and things like that.

Somehow we got on the subject of baseball. Jeff asked me if would like to watch the game that night with him at a bar a few blocks from the office.  I really didn’t know what to say at first.  I would love to go on a date with this handsome, polite man.  But I get so nervous on first dates.  I’m also very cautious of guys only interested in dating paraplegic girls.  Being in a wheelchair we are a bit more vulnerable.  I always feel like my disability is just hanging out there.  Like, I know men new to dating paraplegic girls, want to ask me about my disability.  But if I start offering information about my disability, or ask them about dating paraplegic girls, they seem to get uncomfortable.  So I took a chance and just said yes.  That I would like to see him after work.  We made a meeting place and parted ways for the afternoon.

I am having a very hard time of going from one end of the desirable scale to the other virtually overnight. My ego is shot to bits as I am constantly passed over. Imagine having someone hounding you to get together but they have failed to read the profile. When they finally learn I am in a wheelchair they suddenly do a fast reverse as they run for the hills. The reality of the situation is I am still able to do most everything I did before. I downhill ski, enjoy my water access only cottage, I drive my car, I work. I still crave all the emotional and physical needs we all want. – Little Lady 57, on dating paraplegic girls.

Dating Paraplegic Girls Vulnerable to Insecurities

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Dating paraplegic girls in wheelchairs

That evening, we met as expected and walked, well I wheeled, down to the bar for a few drinks.  Nothing serious just good conversation and all to soon I was home.  It wasn’t even dark!  Walking me to my car I couldn’t help but think he didn’t like me.  My disability was a turn-off.  Oh well, just another guy not interested in dating paraplegic girls I thought.  I tried to push all my insecurities to the back of my mind.  Just then, he asked me how I came to be in a wheelchair.  Jeff confided that he had noticed me around the office but only knew me as, “the girl who wears leg braces.”  I was greatly relieved when he told me he thought I was sexy.  He had wanted to approach me many times but was too shy to talk.  He said he knew nothing about dating paraplegic girls.

Back at my car Jeff offered to help me get in.  Of course I told him I could manage as I did it every day.  We made plans for dinner the next evening.  He pecked me on the cheek and walked away to where his car was parked.  I slid my butt into the seat of my Volvo and put my legs in one at a time.  My car has hand controls and a wheelchair lift that keeps the chair over the roof.  I don’t have to get the wheelchair into the car after I get in it.

Intensions Dating Paraplegic Girls

Our dinner date the next evening couldn’t come fast enough.  He dropped by my office around lunch on his way to a meeting to say hi and to make sure he was still picking me up at 7:30.  That day I was in my wheelchair wearing my leg braces as usual.  I couldn’t help but notice his glancing eyes when he came in my office.  I was wearing a longer skirt, around mid-calf, so he could only see a little of my braces and my black three inch high heels. I was still curious about his exact intension dating paraplegic girls.

Jeff asked if I would be “walking or riding” that night (meaning was I going to be using my braces or wheelchair).  We shared a laugh at his cleverness and I asked which would he prefer.  He told me he was interested in seeing me use my leg braces.  Admitting he had no experience dating paraplegic girls. He had never been out with a disabled woman before, only regular girls.  That was exactly what I needed to hear. I immediately thought, I have just the outfit for you handsome.  Again feeling aroused at the thought of him wanting to see me.  Before I got to wet I eagerly agreed to use the leg braces and he went on to his meeting.

Shower and Dressing Handicapped Style

That evening when I arrived home I bathed myself in the shower. I have a special shower chair just for bathing.  Most mobility handicapped folks use one.  It stays in the shower. I transfer from my wheelchair into it and back out again.  Sitting on just a towel, naked in my wheelchair, I dried my hair and my upper body.  Then I pulled each leg up to my lap and dried them off.  I put on some makeup and teased my hair then went to dress.  First I needed just the right bra.  A sexy bustier to push my breasts up would work.  Skimpy and lingerie like enough to be inviting. If Jeff proves okay with dating paraplegic girls, he would be getting to see a whole lot more of me, than on our first date.

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I went with a silky, dark purple bra with black lace over most of the cup.  The mirror over my dresser told me with a close look you could actually see my nipples through the lace.  My nipples hardened as my thoughts drifted off to my date seeing me in my delicate bra.  I smiled taking panties that matched the bra and a pair of tan pantyhose from my dresser and wheeled to my bed.  Shifted my butt to the bed and pulled my legs up behind me.  One foot at a time through the panties and up my legs got them to the tops of my thighs.  I bunched up the waistband and with a quick bum hop motion slid my bottom into my panties.

The pantyhose were next.  Still sitting up with my lifeless paralyzed legs out in front of me, I pulled one leg up to my chest.  Bunching up one leg of the hose, I worked it over my small foot and over my ankle.  By letting my leg fall back into place, I pulled the nylon up along my leg to around my knee, and repeated the process with the other leg.  I straightened the hose around my feet and calves, making it a little tighter.  Then I worked the hose up my legs and to my thighs just like the panties. A tip for any guys dating paraplegic girls. We go to a lot of trouble to look nice for you, be sure to compliment us.

With the pantyhose, I have to lay back on the bed and kind of lift my bottom as I pull the hose to my waist.  I’ve known other paraplegics my whole life, and just about all of them find it easier to wear thigh-high hose, so they only have to worry about dressing one leg at a time.  My problem is my legs are so thin around my thighs. Those type of hose would actually end up sliding down my legs before I made it to my car.  My legs just aren’t big enough to hold them up, so the full pantyhose are my only choice.

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I rolled over to the side of the bed and picked up both leg braces, laying them on the bed beside my legs.  Using one hand, I lifted my leg from just above my ankle.  I could feel the pantyhose under my hand.  I wondered what it felt like for a woman that could feel her legs.  Wonder what it would feel like to have your legs wrapped in pantyhose.  Feeling them rub against each other under your skirt, or what pantyhose felt like over your feet.  I guess I’ll never know. I just enjoy the feeling that comes from my hand.  I took my other hand and laid the leg brace under my leg. Where I could place my leg in the shiny steel cradle of the brace.  The strap under my knee gets tightened first, then above my knee, then my thigh strap.

I do the same with my right leg, lifting the leg into the brace and fastening the straps tightly on my legs.  I still can’t walk with the braces yet because I don’t keep any shoes attached to the braces.  I unlock the knees so my legs will bend and slide myself back to my waiting wheelchair.  I can lift my legs now using my hands on the braces, so I lift them one at a time into the footrests of the chair and go to my shoes.  The dress I’ll be wearing is a cute one piece black one, so my black pumps would probably look best.  I place the shoes in my lap, now it’s back to the bed.  Once in the bed, knees still unlocked, I pull each leg up so I can reach my foot, still naked in its nylon.

My shoes have to be tight to support my weight with the braces so it’s a little hard getting them on.  Putting a high heel shoe onto a foot that you can’t stiffen is not an easy task.  So with a little work I get the shoes onto my feet and attach them to the braces.  Now lowering my legs to the floor, I lock the leg braces straight and reach for my crutches.  Standing, slowly at first to keep my balance, I begin to take my first swinging step to my closet.  I’ve been using these leg braces for a year now, and I still can’t believe how stiff they keep my paralyzed legs. 

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After spending 28 years not being able to walk, sometimes I can’t actually believe it’s my legs I’m standing on. Showered and dressed in my bra pantyhose and leg braces, I can stand to wiggle into that tight black dress.  I know it will make Jeff’s eyes pop!  I can stand without crutches as long as I have something to balance myself on. I just can’t take any steps without crutches.  So I balance against the dresser and lean the crutches against the bed.  I pull the dress over my head and around my body, smoothing out the soft fabric and letting it fall just above my knees. 

There’s a slit in the side that almost exposes the very top of my braces, and probably will once I sit down somewhere.  After a few looks in the mirror I decided I was ready for the evening date and crutched it back to my wheelchair.  I told you dating paraplegic girls go to a lot of trouble.

Pre Disability Dating Nerves

I use the wheelchair at home even if I’m wearing the braces.  It’s just easier and it keeps my hands free.  Since the one footrest is a little higher for my shorter leg, and I was now wearing my braces with the built up shoe on that foot, my right leg sits up higher than my left.  I like to cross my right leg over my left, which I did of course by picking the right leg up and pulling it over the left.  I took notice of the slit in my dress when I did that to see just how much of my leg was exposed.  I could see to just under the thigh strap of my brace, perfect I grinned.  It should be just enough to get Jeff wanting to see more.  I was very keen to make his first time dating paraplegic girls enjoyable.

I sat staring at my disabled legs in braces wondering how the events of the evening would go.  I heard the knock at my door I had been waiting on.  I turned my wheelchair and headed for the door.  When I got to the door, I invited Jeff in, the door was open.  He entered looking great and holding flowers. He immediately complimented me on my choice of dress.  It’s like this guy swallowed the book on dating paraplegic girls.

I retreated to the kitchen with the flowers for a vase as he sat down in the living room.  We made typical small talk about work that day while I tended to the flowers.  Then I went to the bedroom for my crutches and returned to Jeff swinging my legs a little slower than usual, and dragging that left leg a little more than usual.  I had already decided that I wanted to put on a good show for Jeff.  He would see just how crippled I really am, a kind of acid test to sort the men from the boys.

With my thin legs wrapped in the nylons and leg braces, and my sexiest black pumps Jeff couldn’t take his eyes off my legs.  I could feel his eyes burning on me as I descended the ramp off my front porch and to his car where he held the door open.  I ask him to take my crutches for me, which of course he did, and I transferred myself down into the car seat, still stiff-legged.  I showed him how the leg brace knee locks work (in case he wanted to know for later).  I pulled both legs in at once to keep my dress from opening up for the world to see. Jeff stowed the crutches and wheelchair and off we went.

Sexy Handicapped Women and Public Reactions

The valet at the restaurant couldn’t believe his eyes when he opened the car door.  The common public reaction to seeing a sexy handicapped girl is one of confusion.  Many have trouble connecting the two, sexy and handicapped.  They often look my date up and down for signs of a disability.  Like they think you have to be disabled to be dating paraplegic girls.

I swung my braced legs out and let the knee locks snap into place.  Jeff quickly came around with my crutches and helped me to my feet.  Jeff sternly pointed out to the valet how the wheelchair ramp was blocked with a sign that had fallen from the building.  I told them I could manage the four steps up to the entrance.  I was actually secretly excited that Jeff would get to see me conquer the steps.

I told Jeff I needed him to hold one of my crutches and stand behind me in case I slipped.  With my left crutch on the first step, and my right hand on the handrail, I pushed against the crutch and let my legs drag behind me up onto the step.  My right leg came first as usual, and then my left.  I had to twist my body a little to get my left foot over the step.  I could then stand to move my crutch to the second step.  I took the steps slowly, giving Jeff plenty of time to see the braces through the slit in my skirt and enjoy my struggling up the steps.  I made it to the door fine, where the doorman held the door for us both.

A True Gentleman Dating Paraplegic Girls

Dinner was perfect, with a little wine Jeff seemed to be enjoying his first experience dating paraplegic girls.  Wine gets people talking and it certainly did its trick on us.  Jeff confided that he had never known my legs were different lengths and was interested in the thick sole on my right shoe.  I explained how my shoes were of different sizes due to my right foot being smaller.  He told me how gracefully I moved in the leg braces, and how beautiful he thought I was.  This one is a keeper I thought to myself.  Despite never dating paraplegic girls before Jeff remained a true gentleman sensitive to my dsability.  I hadn’t felt so safe and comfortable to just be me in a long time.  When it comes to dating paraplegic wheelchair girls, and dating women with a disability, being called special is very different from being made feel truly special.  A true gentleman knows the difference.

One time I shifted under the table and moved my leg out just far enough for him to feel my brace against his leg.  I saw his cheeks blush and gave him a little smile.  I quietly reassured him that I was okay with him touching the braces and that I admired him very much.  I even pushed my chair in a little where the pad on the knee was rubbing the inside of his thigh.  We sat like this through dinner and through our second bottle of wine by the time the check came.  Jeff kept his hand around my waist as we made our way outside and down those steps to the car.  Jeff took my crutches without my asking and I pulled my legs into the car.

Disability Parking and No Stopping Short

We leaned into each other on the ride back to my house. Jeff’s hand wandered over to my thigh where he politely asked, “May I?”  His hand rubbed gently, first on my dress, then around through the slit and between the upright parts of my brace.  His strong warm hand paused when he softy touched the skin of my silky smooth thigh making me gasp.   I couldn’t exactly feel his hand, but knowing it was there gave me chills, and greatly aroused me.  Even though I’m paralyzed, I can still function sexually, and feel an orgasm.  The physical part is a little hard, since I can’t really move my waist or legs, but the feeling is there all the same.

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Paraplegic lovers embrace

When we got home, I invited him in and got out of the car where he was waiting with my crutches.  I crutched up to the door, again with his hand on my waist only it was a little lower this time.  We went in and I started making coffee, crutching with my braced legs around the kitchen.  I told him I was going to take my braces off so we could get comfortable on the couch when he said something that shocked me.  He ask me if he could help take my leg braces off.  I could see that he was beginning to get aroused and thought I could have lots of fun with this, as I was aroused too.  So I said he could and swung my legs through my crutches over to the couch.

I thought about getting my wheelchair first so I wouldn’t be totally helpless after my braces were off but then thought better or it.  Jeff had gotten this far, perhaps he would like carrying me to my bedroom.  I sat on the couch with my legs straight out in front of me with feet resting on the floor.  I instructed Jeff to move my skirt to the side and unlock my knees so my legs would bend in.  He released the locks and pulled the lower parts of my legs in toward the couch.  He was fast becoming an expert at dating paraplegic girls.

I suggested, “I’d like to lay back if you could pull my legs to the couch for me.”  With a nod I reclined and he pulled my legs to the couch and up into his lap.  He did them together so as not to spread. My skirt rode up anyway past the tops of the braces and revealing the darker part of my pantyhose.  He said sorry and pulled my skirt back over my legs.  I told him it was okay.  I kind of knew it would happen and didn’t mind one bit.

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Removing paraplegic girls leg brace

I have to say I’ve never had a man touch me like this and help me with my leg braces. I was getting extremely turned on by watching his hands on my thin flaccid legs and touching my braces.  I asked if he would mind taking the upright part of the leg braces off of the shoes.  Then slide my shoes off of my feet.  I bit on my bottom lip as he did so eagerly but gently. 

I watched him slowly ease my pumps off revealing my left foot then my smaller right foot.  He took a minute to study the difference in my feet.  All the things I thought were a drawback in dating paraplegic girls.  My disability, spinal cord injury, the wheelchair crutches and leg braces, my flaccid legs and crippled feet.  To Jeff these things are a bonus that regular girls dont come with.  He noted the nail polish on my toes and rubbed my feet for a few minutes. I could tell he liked the feeling of my feet in the pantyhose.

He began undoing the straps on my calf and leaned in just far enough to kiss me when he reached up my skirt for the thigh band.  One hand was caressing my leg as the other took the thigh band apart, the whole time kissing me more and more intently.  After the leg brace was loose around my leg he picked my leg up letting the foot dangle. Placing the brace on the floor he moved in closer gently pushing my shoulder.  I realized I was awfully tensed up and relaxed back on the couch. 

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Making love to paraplegic girls

He has the most beautiful smile.   He lay on top of me with his hands around my face.  Caressing my waist and my legs he slowly began coming closer to my breasts.  I wanted him to touch my breasts and lick my nipples so badly I could hardly stand it.  Since my right hand was already pulling his shirt from his pants, I used my left to guide his hands into my blouse.

Here I was on the couch, one leg brace on and one off, still pretty much dressed, under this man I couldn’t wait to get to my bedroom.  My blouse was off and on the floor, sexy bra not far behind.  My nipples stood erect with pleasure. I had his shirt off admiring is shoulders and chest.  The bulge in his pants told me he was erect with pleasure as well.  He pulled away just long enough to take my other brace from my leg. My skirt bunched up around my waist revealing both thin limp legs in tan pantyhose.

I now felt Jeff was very comfotable with dating paraplegic girls.  I whispered to him to carry me down the hall to the bed, and with much pleasure he did just that.  One hand around my waist, the other under my knees letting my legs fall where they wanted, he carried me down the hall to my bedroom.  He moved my wheelchair with his leg so he could place me on the bed, then fell on top of me.  He pulled my skirt off first, sliding it slowly down my nylon-clad legs and letting is slip under my feet and off to the floor.  We rolled in the bed a little longer, me just in my hose and panties underneath now, which were becoming more wet with every minute.

Paralyzed Legs Don’t Disable Lovers

Paralyzed and lusting heavily my lover took control.   His willingness to dating paraplegic girls was about to pay off.  We were ready to shift up a gear to sex with paraplegic girls.  He rolled me over wrapping my legs around his waist where I would be comfortable.  I tugged his belt off unfastened the front of his bulging pants and pulled him hard against my naked breasts.  He was huge now fully erect.  I slid his pants and shorts off his waist.  He pulled and kicked them the rest of the way off and began pulling at the waist of my pantyhose.

He slid my pantyhose down both legs at once thin and pale they are.  As he was sliding my feet out of the nylons I was already pulling my panties down, eager for him to enter me.  He was on top and had spread my legs wide at first, pulling them together around him as he came in at me.  He was lunging harder and harder.  It wasn’t long sex but I’ve never had better.  We moved together in furious rhythm.  Reaching orgasm at the same time both collapsing exhausted.

We lay laughing together for a long time talking about the act we had so passionately committed.  Jeff went to the bathroom to wash off.  I waited for him to finish and had him to bring me a towel for my wheelchair.  I put the towel in the chair and slid over into it.  My paralyzed legs followed.  Wrapping the towel around my midsection I put my feet in their rests.  Naked except for the towel, I too washed off and returned to bed where we both slept. Knowing soon we both would have to prepare for work.

Disability Lovers Finding New Legs

This morning was almost as exciting as last night. I got to do something I’ve never done before.  Jeff had a change of clothes in his car which he got while I was bathing.  While he showered I went about getting ready as usual.  I chose my outfit for the day:  Red skirt and black top, jet-black pantyhose, and the same black pumps from the night before.  I retrieved my braces and heels from the front room using my wheelchair.  As I was returning to the bedroom Jeff came in.  His hair wet and oh so sexy fresh from the shower.  He took my leg braces and put them on the bed for me, asking if he could put them on.  Wow I thought, of course I didn’t mind, I was excited by the idea.  I had to keep reminding myself Jeff was actually new to dating paraplegic girls.  I had to take things slowly.

I needed to get my panties and pantyhose on as I was still naked except for the towel.  He picked me up from the wheelchair like the night before and laid me on the bed.  He actually picked up the clothes I laid out and began dressing me!  First the panties which he slid one foot at a time through them and pulled them up my legs.  He stopped me when I tried to help and I couldn’t help but smile. I laid back, and let him lift my bottom while his free hand pulled the panties around my waist.  He took the black pantyhose, and lifting one foot at a time, pulled each stocking onto my feet and legs, and up to my thighs where he had to lift my bottom again.

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Dating paraplegic girls

He smoothed my legs out and picked up the brace for my left leg.  He placed my thin leg into its brace and fastened the straps in reverse order from the night before.  Lifting my foot a little, he wiggled it into the high heel pump and attached it to the brace.  Then he ask me if I could walk using only one leg brace.  Well I didn’t know if I could or not as I had never tried.  Thinking it might turn him on to see me try I wanted to see if I could.  My man would there to catch me if I couldn’t.

Jeff retrieved my crutches from the front room and I lowered my leg onto the floor.  The knee clicked into its locked position.  I balanced on the one stiff leg at first.  Noticing with the three inch heel, my shorter right leg dangled about five inches above the floor.  So I extended the crutches, and pulled my body forward letting my right leg swing freely.  Pulling my left behind it dragged a little more than before on the floor.  My firm naked breasts jiggled as I struggled around the bedroom.  Dating paraplegic girls does have its perks.  My bouncing boobs were two of them. 

I could actually do this I thought. Walking on one brace only if I wanted, leaving my shorter leg hanging.  I got Jeff to take another one of my high heels without the brace attachment made into it and slide it over my right foot.  This almost made up the difference to the floor. Making the toe of the shoe point downward and barely touching the floor.  I crutched around for a few minutes.  Leaning on my one stiff braced leg and dragging the other limp leg behind.  I let the toe of the pump slide on the floor.

Like the night before I could see Jeff becoming aroused at the sight of my frail paralyzed legs. I realized he was attracted not only to me but my disability as well.  I became excited at the idea.  It was nice to know I didn’t have to try and be like any other woman he had been with.  I could be comfortable about my handicap knowing Jeff liked dating paraplegic girls.  He was more than okay with my spinal cord injury.  He liked my wheelchair, leg braces, crutches and my disability.

After crutching around a bit I went back to the bed and pulled myself bottom first onto it.  I pulled my right leg to my chest and took off the smaller pump revealing my foot in only the pantyhose.  I took the other leg brace and laid it under my leg.  Jeff helped me with the straps and put my other pump on.  The one with the build-up on the bottom and attached it to the brace.  He also helped me on with my skirt while I put my bra and blouse on.

Jeff thoroughly enjoyed his first time dating paraplegic girls.  I’m so glad it was with me!  We didn’t bother asking about taking separate cars to work.  He drove and I’m sure after work today he’ll drive me home. We’ll spend another exciting night together as disability lovers.  Maybe tonight I’ll show him how I sometimes drag myself from room to room in the house.  Let him see me pull my thin lifeless legs around without the braces crutches or the wheelchair.  Dating paraplegic girls does require a little patience and understanding.  And with that, I wish you all the happiness and love in dating paraplegic girls, that I have come to find.

Kristi Eden

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Sexy wheelchair babe shivers in orgasm sitting on top of boyfriend in love swing suspended by personal patient hoist

Wheelchair Hoist Sex Swing

A wheelchair hoist sex swing helps wheelchair users enhance their sex life. Tetraplegics (quadriplegics) and paraplegics often find it difficult to achieve some sexual positions. Sex after a spinal cord injury is made hard by paralysis and poor mobility. The sex aids mentioned in our wheelchair sex article raised many questions. Here we take a closer look at a wheelchair hoist sex swing. Some paraplegics and most tetraplegics will already own a personal hoist and sling of some description. These make suitable assistive devices for intercourse and love making. Avoiding the expense of an actual sex swing.

Who Uses a Wheelchair Hoist Sex Swing

Sexy wheelchair babe shivers in orgasm sitting on her boyfriend in love swing suspended by personal patient hoist

Wheelchair hoist sex swing

By far the majority of wheelchair hoist sex swing users are regular able bodied heterosexual couples. They can however, be of great assistance to wheelchair users with paralysis. Like those with a spinal cord injury. A wheelchair hoist sex swing may be unknown to people with a disability. Few discuss sex with wheelchair users for fear of offending, or getting offended. Also, many hold the opinion disabled people don’t, or should not, have sex. Others believe all disabled people are oversexed. These misconceptions are slowly changing. We encourage healthy discussion on wheelchair sex life and sex after spinal cord injury. We promote the many beautiful aspects of disability.

Suited to lovers of different sizes and disabilities, it’s easy to adjust the height and angle of your body, in a wheelchair hoist sex swing. All without detracting from each other’s arousal. Quality sex swings offer neoprene padded supports for your butt and back, and stirrups for legs or feet. It’s just a matter of finding what suits you and your disability. Adult stores stock sex swings but we suggest searching online first. Research what type may best suit you. Buying online could save you time and money as well.

Why Use a Wheelchair Hoist Sex Swing

Sexy wheelchair lovers bouncing in love swing climax suspended by personal patient hoist

Wheelchair lovers climax in hoist sex swing

Difficult sexual positions are no longer exclusive to the athletic and sexually gifted. With a wheelchair hoist sex swing disabled couples can be more sexually adventurous. They can achieve stimulating sexual positions previously only imagined. Reap the benefits of pleasure a wheelchair hoist sex swing can arouse. A healthy imagination in lovemaking is key to generating pleasure. It helps to renew the desire for sexual intimacy. By experimenting with new positions in the bedroom, you can swing your love life into action. Enjoy weightless sex in unlimited positions. Explore your deepest fantasies.

Take a go slow approach until you are comfortable and confident. It is possible to overbalance in some sexual positions. You may slip right out of the wheelchair hoist sex swing harness performing others. A personal hoist sling can be of advantage in that respect. While not as many positions are achievable, they require minimal balance. Personal hoist slings are purpose designed to prevent from dropping a person, no matter their handicap.

Using a wheelchair hoist sex swing enhances disability sex life. They are not sleazy. They simply make sex with a disability easier. Wheelchair lovers are often amazed how easy these make sex. 

Challenging sex positions, that require exertion and skill, become easy using a wheelchair hoist sex swing. You can find the right angle to achieve deep penetration with minimal exertion. Sexual positions never felt so good effortlessly. Put more comfort and enjoyment into your disabled sex life. Swing into action and sex it up.

Wheelchair Hoist Sex Swing Components

Sex Swing: The sex swing is all you need. Optional extras are a heavy duty spring, frame and hoist. A good quality sex swing harness is made from neoprene padded adjustable ballistic weave nylon straps. These provide maximum comfort and strength. The swing costs around $120.00 USD.

Sex Swing Spring: A heavy duty high tensile steel spring is ideal for those with limited mobility, like quadriplegics, or tetraplegics. The spring helps to minimize the effort required to make rocking and bouncing motions. The average sex swing spring can suspend around 200 lbs. Your local hardware store may have a cheaper option. A sex swing spring costs about $180.00 USD.

Sex Swing Frame: The sex swing frame is like a tent frame. It is a free-standing rigid metal frame to suspend the sex swing from. Most sex swing frames hold up to 400 lbs. There are many types of frames ranging from $150.00 to $500.00 USD.

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Sex Swing Hoist: Some hang their sex swing from an eye-bolt in a doorway, ceiling joist, or beam over their bed. We recommended any eye-bolt installation be done by a qualified carpenter. Or you can hook the swing onto a hospital style, personal hoist. Take advantage of the hoists raising and lowering capability. If you don’t own a personal hoist, there are a few sex swing models that come with a hoist. Using a remote control you can raise and lower the swing effortlessly. Personal patient type hoists cost thousands. Sex swing hoists cost around $550.00 USD.

Already Have a Personal Hoist

Check the maximum weight rating before you go bouncing around in any hospital style, personal hoist. Remember safety first pumpkin. Position any personal wheelchair hoist sex swing over a bed. Or place something soft below you in case you fall. Keep a phone within reach. Just in case it all goes horribly wrong. Good luck explaining your dilema to emergency services lol.

Occasionally, both sexual partners have very limited mobility. Two tetraplegic (quadriplegic) lovers for example. They are restricted by poor hand and arm function. An electric battery powered patient hoist with remote control is ideal. It will help to make wheelchair hoist sex swing positions much easier. That is the purpose, easier love making for people with a disability.

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Some see a wheelchair hoist sex swing as nothing more than a kinky S&M bondage device. Strip teasing, pole dancing, a vibrator, these things are not everybody’s cup of tea. Personal hoists are used for transferring people with high level cervical C1-C7 tetraplegia. Paralyzed from a spinal cord injury, wheelchair users transfer into and out of bed etc, with a hoist. In the home however, a personal hoist can serve many purposes. Limited only by imagination. Most tetraplegics will already own a personal hoist and sling. These can be used as a wheelchair hoist sex swing. It’s just another perk of dating a tetraplegic.

Five Common Hoist Sling Types

Here are five common hoist sling types. Four are suitable for use as a wheelchair hoist sex swing. As an assistive device for sex and intimacy after spinal cord injury. The fast fit, and toileting (or dress) slings, offer the greatest freedom and sexual access. Hammock type slings are restrictive. Material covers the private areas. Hammock slings are fine for able bodied folks. Hammock slings are not well suited for sex with wheelchair users. Or any disability where a severely compromised range of motion, poor motor function, or extensive paralysis exists.

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By not crossing leg straps (sections that come up between the legs) legs spread wider apart in slings. This is great for sexual access, but it does create the risk, of slipping right through the sling. Lengthening top shoulder straps reclines a person into a flat supine (face up) or prone (face down) position.  This is good to hover your partner over you on a bed and rock back and forth.

Wheelchair Hoist Sex Swing Tips and Tricks

Sexy wheelchair lover spread legs in love swing suspended by personal patient hoist

Wheelchair lover in sex swing

The disabled wheelchair user does not always have to be the one in the sling. Switch it around and use your imagination. Try a 360 spinning motion if you dare. Climb in on top of your partner in your wheelchair hoist sex swing sling. Pushing the sides of a sling outward raises it a few inches. By pushing, and relaxing quickly, you can get a rhythmic bouncy motion going.

Try a little something new. Tie your disabed lover up and use the hoist to position them exactly where you want them. Blindfold and spank with a spatula lol. It’s all about having fun. Good love making begins in the brain hours before intercourse happens. Scented candlelight, massage, music, lingerie etc, all enhance the sexual experience. Get into the swing of it. For more tips on sex after spinal cord injury, and sex with a disability, see our wheelchair sex article.

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Spinal pain treatments and relief

Chronic Pain After Spinal Cord Injury

We take asprin for headaches, broken bones heal in six weeks, ongoing chronic pain however is a never ending nightmare of doctors drugs and treatments that typically yield little success and soon daily life becomes consumed by pain. From getting groceries to attending Susie’s wedding, life decisions are based on levels of pain felt today or of those percieved in time. So how can we ease and free ourselves from chronic pain with minimal drugs and little effort.

Training in the field of psychology I’ve been studying chronic pain more lately and noticed how deeply it is entrenched in lives watching someone close to me battle the condition. The very deadline I set myself for this article passed due to my relative’s chronic pain and her resulting difficulties. Whether you use a wheelchair, have ambulatory difficulties, or have other physical issues, the odds are chronic pain will factor in life at some point.

Who Suffers Chronic Pain

Chronic Spinal Pain

Chronic Spinal Pain

In developed countries, almost 20% of the adult population is currently afflicted with persistent and/or recurrent pain. According to International Association for the Study of Pain (IASP), only 1-2% of that documented chronic pain is attributed to cancer. The majority of that chronic pain is attributed to neck, back, joint, and musculoskeletal disorders.

There’s little wonder why people with on-going, unrelenting pain seriously consider suicide as an alternative to suffering a life defined by pain.

Only recently has the study and appropriate treatment of pain become part of mainstream medical research. Pain study now encompasses interdisciplinary research by psychologists, clinical doctors, biochemists, and neurophysiologists, among other professions. The most recent research has found that the sensations caused by severe, ongoing pain can literally change the chemical mechanisms within the central nervous system. Neuronal changes occur and the brain becomes primed to perceive pain, even after the source of pain is removed.

Additionally, research had found that pain perception is perceived differently based on gender and ethnicity. Believed to be attributed to neurochemical responses, women appear to experience pain far more than men, and those of African descent show a greater tendency to experience chronic pain than whites. When comparing responses to analgesic treatment to chronic pain, particularly various forms of opioids, men and women can expect markedly different levels of relief.

What is Chronic Pain

Pain is defined in three medical stages:

  • 1. Acute pain lasts 30 days
  • 2. Subacute pain spans 30 to 90 days
  • 3. Pain that exceeds these time spans is classified as chronic pain.

Acute pain after any trauma or disease signals actual tissue damage as well as the potential for possible future tissue damage. Acute pain and chronic pain should be addressed and treated differently. The timing of pain treatment is another factor to consider, the longer someone experiences untreated pain, the longer it will take medical specialist to treat and hopefully remedy that pain.

Pain specialists note an individual experiencing severe pain treated within 60 to 80 days from onset, has a probability of becoming pain free near zero percent. If that same individual was treated within the first 30 to 60 days of onset, they would most likely have become pain free.

Economic Cost of Chronic Pain

Chronic pain left untreated or under treated drives the costs of health-care skyward in the form of visits to the emergency room, urgent care clinics, and predominantly extended stays in hospital. In the US alone, there are more than 50 million lost workdays related to persistent pain per year. Translated into cost for businesses $61.2 billion each year.

Cost Following Spinal Cord Injury

Chronic pain in persons with spinal cord injury (SCI) is a common and significant problem. Almost four out of five persons with SCI report chronic, persistent pain. Of that identified group, almost one-third report that chronic pain interferes with their daily activities and quality of life. In a separate study, over one third of participants with thoracic or lumbar SCI pain reported they were willing to trade recovery from their SCI for immediate pain relief.

Recent research has found that adequate pain relief around any spinal cord lesion early in treatment can help prevent later chronic pain. Correlations among those with incomplete spinal cord lesions where abnormal sensation exists near the initial lesion site treated for pain relative to the number who have gone on to suffer chronic pain later in life are also emerging in favor of early pain management.

Spinal pain treatments and relief

Spinal pain treatments and relief

In a survey by Spinal Universe back pain treatments reported as most successful were also the most simple to enact, weight loss, exercise and massage, and furthermore aligned with other studies they conclude prescription pain management is the most effective in treating chronic pain.

Pain Management Narcotics and Addiction

There are numerous things to consider in the discussion of pain: how pain is measured, the sources of chronic pain, how individuals rate their pain, the perceptions of doctors, and the need of the sufferers, to name a few. However, based on my most recent experiences, the most difficult component of pain care is pain management through pharmaceutical treatments. I have found the single greatest fear, among untrained physicians and their desperate suffering patients, is addiction to narcotic pain relievers.

Despite our expectations to the contrary, chronic pain management is not explored in detail in medical school, unless one is going to specialize. The popularly held misconceptions regarding opiates, their derivatives, and the newer non-opioid analgesics are one of the major reasons many suffer chronic pain needlessly. While studying psychology, my primary focus was substance abuse, a field which is complicated and filled with emotional issues.

There is a clear and well-defined line between an individual whose body has sustained trauma seeking pain relief and substance abuse. The concepts of addiction are complicated and fraught with different theories of addiction and treatment. To clearly examine the nomenclature of abuse and addiction to medicinal drugs intended to relieve pain we need to understand that profound differences exist between medical pain relief, substance abuse, and chemical dependence.

Spinal cord injury pain medications

Spinal cord injury pain medications

Substance abuse is defined as the use of drugs or any other chemical substance (legal or illegal) with some pattern of regularity, such as drinking to excess every weekend. Substance abusers are still able to maintain their life roles and responsibilities with some degree of competence. Monday is still a work day and the individual arrives on time, worn out and hung over, but still at work.

Chemically dependent individuals are, however, a completely different story. Chemically dependent individuals devote all their attention, emotions, and thoughts toward every aspect of their addicted life. A chemically dependent person chooses to forgo relationships with their family and friends; their primary relationship is with their drug of choice. Their life revolves around the drug, instead of enhancing quality of life, it consumes their life. It’s rare for a person who is adequately treated for chronic pain to display such behaviours.

While at times chronic pain may seem to overshadows everything in our lives, it is not by choice. When we seek treatment and care for chronic pain, we are entitled to the most appropriate medication possible, whether that is morphine or methadone. When we experience such profound chronic pain, the odds are very slim that we will become addicted to our medication. Unless there is a history of addiction in the family background, it is relatively safe to take powerful medications, strictly according to the prescriber’s orders.

Making changes and adjustments to narcotic pain medication is reckless and potentially life threatening, unless under the prescriber’s orders. If at any time you feel you have become dependent on pain medication consult your physician and ask they re-examine your prescriptions and drug regime.

Conclusions

Chronic pain is frustrating and exhausting. It hurts those who suffer from it and those who love and care for them. Chronic pain is a condition that is often extremely difficult to treat. It can take months or even years to find the right physician, the right treatment, and the right medication. Many find it difficult to stand up to a doctor and tell them we are capable of participating in the choice of our treatment, particularly if narcotics are part of the discussion.

We are all well within our rights to educate ourselves and subsequently advocate for ourselves or a loved one. We are all entitled to pain relief and an improvement in the quality of life. The consequences of inadequate chronic pain relief are potential greater harm than the consequences of addiction. The earlier a possible dependency is addressed the more effectively it can be dealt with. If you have concerns or questions about chronic pain, please contact your physician.

Resources

  • ABC of Spinal Cord Injury, 4th Edition; Grundy, David (ed). 2002, BMJ Books, London.
  • American Pain Foundation;  http://painfoundation.org
  • Encyclopedia of Disability; Albrecht, Gary L. (ed). 2006, Sage Publications, Thousand Oaks.
  • Fundamentals of Substance Abuse Practice;  Johnson, Jerry. 2004, Brooks/Cole-Thomson Learning, Belmont, CA.
  • Health.Com;  http://www.health.com
  • International Association for the Study of Pain; http://www.iasp-pain.org